0:25:14 - 0:25:29 . It's hypocritical. It's, it's evil and it has to stop. So the only way it's gonna stop is if more people start calling this nonsense out in public food for thought 0:00:00 - 0:00:21 Inflammatory. So I was on Twitter and I saw this meme here, it says stages of marriage and it has a woman and a man and the man sitting in a chair of some type and the woman's doing dishes and you can see as, as things progress, she gets heavier and then he, he's gone in the last frame. And I want to 0:00:21 - 0:00:48 use this as a specific example, not of gender issues, but as an example of what I call the plague of inconsistency. So to be inconsistent is to hold to examples of a principle in some cases, but to throw that out in others. So it's another way of saying that you're unprincipled and when you're unprincipled 0:00:48 - 0:01:10 , it means you do you, you live according to a principle in certain situations but not in others. This is a real problem today. It's enormous. And what happens is you get people that, that are on their high horse preaching their ideologies in certain cases. And then when those same principles apply in 0:01:10 - 0:01:29 other times and places, they get all angry and they'll fight you and everything else when you point out that they're inconsistent and the thing is, is if you're going to stand for something strongly, you need to be consistent about that. Right. Otherwise you're not a credible person, you're not an honest 0:01:28 - 0:01:48 person, you're not a rational person and your opinion doesn't matter. In fact, you're probably a very harmful person and people should keep an eye out for you because you're, you're going to do bad things that hurt a lot of people. That's that adage. If you can convince someone to believe in uh what's 0:01:47 - 0:02:06 the word? I'm paraphrasing. If you can get someone to believe in things that are ridiculous. It's, it's not too many steps for them to commit atrocities, absurdities. If you can convince them to believe in absurdities, you can, you can convince them to commit atrocities and that's how these people are 0:02:06 - 0:02:26 . Ok. So let's use this example because it's a nice specific example that that happens to, to have some weight to it pun intended. Um And I will say it can go either way but that, that gets to the root of one point I want to make is that there's so many complications with this, but let's just see what 0:02:26 - 0:02:47 people say. OK. So let's look at this in, in the original poster here. She says huge backstory. It's like you're looking up a recipe. My great grandmother had five kids and who cares? Right. Boil it down. What does it say? Oh, I got fat as a married woman. But let me tell you. Why? That doesn't make 0:02:47 - 0:03:07 me a bad person. That's what this says. OK. And in her case, it's kind of cute cause she says, and my husband still loves me, which is awesome. Right. Let's go down further. Some of these are quite funny. OK. This person says, oh I didn't understand. I thought that um he died and then she felt like she 0:03:07 - 0:03:31 could let herself go. Um A lot of people are ragging on the husband in the meme. Um This one is interesting, we'll drill down on this. There's truth in, in the fact that bodies change. Typically both of them do. Not just the woman's also the older you get, the more a fit body is the result of effort 0:03:31 - 0:03:52 when young you get a hot pod for free. That's totally true. OK. Well, what's this glossing over? And a lot of these other comments also gloss over it because you know, like this one says the men get fat too. Yes, they do. Statistically, it's very sad. OK. But what are we talking about here? That's not 0:03:51 - 0:04:17 expressed because you know, it's a meme, it's not like a scientific study or, or crazy amounts of detail here. There's not timeline, right? Questions include, how long does this transition take? And then this exposes all sorts of details. Did you know that women M max out on estrogen around 22 24? That 0:04:17 - 0:04:39 that's the the window and thereafter sometime after that, so 24 onward, they're in decline. Do you know when a man maxes out on his testosterone, he starts to decline on average 38. That's why as men get older, even into their thirties, they'll, they'll get a thicker beard because they're, they're still 0:04:39 - 0:05:02 increasing in that. And again, this is glossing over even more details because there are differences, you can't just say estrogen and testosterone. There are sub uh differences to that. Ok. That, that changes as well. But but boiling into one thing, women max out around 24 minute, around 38. And so a 0:05:02 - 0:05:27 lot of men experience this transition very quickly and it is true that men gain gain weight over time. But women tend to gain weight a lot faster because their decline starts earlier. Women mature faster than men physically and they start declining physically before men. OK? And, and the the the peak 0:05:26 - 0:05:51 varied for men is also longer. OK. That's just the way it works. So uh you gloss over all these details with this, but it's, it's, it's a great example of inconsistency because people make all these excuses for the the women gaining weight here and you'll see them like um here's a good one actually that 0:05:51 - 0:00:00 I agreed with that I think was still in this post. This lady said, I think it's weird that the sex that bears Children and runs mostly on estrogen is the one that gets demonized for weight and not the sex that has it on easy mode with testosterone yet still manages to be just as overweight as women. 0:00:00 - 0:06:32 And I said, excellent point. I couldn't agree more with her. Right, because it is easier to stay trim when your, your veins are coursing with testosterone. But here's the inconsistency is that in general, women will play this card when it is to their advantage and when it's their disadvantage, they pretend 0:06:32 - 0:06:58 it doesn't exist. The truth is men and women are different, they're different and we, some of those differences are beneficial and some of those differences are detrimental and you have to be honest about both or problems ensue. So let's keep going on this because we'll point out more of these inconsistencies 0:06:57 - 0:07:19 . Um You get people who are like, oh, how dare men assume that women are never gonna change? Yeah. A again, I totally agree. Uh This was this one's ridiculous. Maybe we'll point that out because it takes it to the extreme. I totally agree. But here's the question, it's called informed consent. Here's 0:07:18 - 0:07:40 the version where the guy gets fat, too informed consent and, and you could take this either way, like I said, you could reverse the meme. OK. Uh It's not about the direction, it's about the inconsistency. So if you had informed consent, then in this case, let's go with this case. This is the average 0:07:40 - 0:08:01 American situation. Do both of these people fully expect that they're both going to get fat And do they both expect it in the timeline that's close to reality or when they're dating? Are they expecting to look like this forever? In other words, I'm gonna flip this around because you might hear that and 0:08:01 - 0:08:21 say, well, no reasonable, per reasonable person would expect that. Oh, yeah, let's say that this woman here right at this time when they get together that she's a nine, let's just throw that out there on the 10 scale. And let's say the guy is, is a nine or a 10, he's probably gonna be a 10 because women 0:08:20 - 0:08:40 usually marry up and this is just looks. But we're just isolating this for because we're talking about a meme, we're just simplifying it. OK? We're not talking about his success in life, all these other things, his character. So let's say she's a nine on the 10 scale and he's a 10. Is she dating him 0:08:40 - 0:09:00 based on the assumption that one day he's gonna be uh, whatever, this is a one or a two. And is she dating her? Is he dating her on the assumption that one day she's gonna be a whatever this is. No, no, they're not. Now, I'll tell you in modern times guys are expecting this far more than they used to 0:08:59 - 0:09:29 because you have to look at the averages, right? But this woman thinks she's gonna be a nine forever. That's most women have enormous inflated self worth when it comes to looks And so either you can think of yourself as a permanent whatever you are now or you can say all people get old and fat, but you 0:09:28 - 0:09:50 can't flip back and forth, depending on whatever gets you the most in the moment. That's the inconsistency. Do you understand? So, if this woman as a nine is thinking, I'm gonna be fat one day and she dates a five who has a really solid job and is a really good guy. That's awesome. And she says to him 0:09:50 - 0:10:14 , you know, I'm gonna be fat one day and I, I hope you still love me for who I am and he's like, yeah, cool, whatever you look really good now and whatever, that's just part of getting older, then that's informed consent, you get it and that's being honest about things. It's deceitful to think of yourself 0:10:14 - 0:10:34 as a Perma nine because you happen to be a nine right now. And then also go on social media in five years because you've gained 50 pounds or 100 pounds and say, oh, this is so ridiculous. Why do men just expect for women to stay thin forever? Well, informed consent. Were you upfront about your intention 0:10:33 - 0:10:56 of letting yourself go or not? Right. So, um we get on to some more in this example and I'm gonna back this out to the general principle. Uh This one, I've seen a lot on social media lately. I also love that leaves out the part where the man also gains weight and goes bald and didn't give birth to any 0:10:56 - 0:11:19 kids. Ok. We already talked about men gaining weight, fine, whatever. Let's talk about baldness. Why is it that so many women are tossing out going bald as the equivalent to them getting fat? Which of these two things can be controlled? What is a more realistic equivalent to a man going bald? Maybe it's 0:11:19 - 0:11:43 a woman getting saggy. That also happens. Now, let me ask you because she can't control that. Right. It's just gonna happen as part of part of life as you get older. Now, um, in both cases, our expectations in society have been corrupted by plastic surgery. So nearly every rich and famous male gets hair 0:11:43 - 0:12:02 transplants today, it's an extremely common thing. Go look at pictures of Elon Musk, go look at pictures of the President of the United States. Almost all these guys have had hair transplants. It's a very minor procedure these days because it's so common and they've, they've advanced it that much. It 0:12:02 - 0:12:22 doesn't really cost a whole ton of money if you're, if you're a successful person in life as far as how much money you're making, it's a small fraction to go get that done. Same thing with plastic surgery on breasts. Ok. That doesn't mean that it's a good thing to do or that, you know, that's a separate 0:12:21 - 0:12:46 question. I was making plenty of money for years and years after I lost some of my hair and that's not something that's ever interested me. And the female version I, I personally, I really don't like the idea of, um, my wife getting any kind of plastic surgery and, uh, I, I certainly wouldn't encourage 0:12:46 - 0:13:07 any of that. That's just me. Right. But I, I can make an argument for that. But that's, that's sort of all beside the point. The, the equivalent of going bald is not women getting fat. That happens for one reason, eating too much food. Now it's absolutely correct to state that as and someone said this 0:13:07 - 0:13:25 on here, you're, you're you a lot, a lot of attractive people get that just from being young and that goes away with time, it gets harder and there's some things that you can help and there's some things you can't help, you can't help it. If your hair is turning gray, you can't help it if your hair is 0:13:25 - 0:13:46 falling out outside of some weird condition, right? And it just so happens that that's the case. You can't help it when your body's getting saggy, if it's not from being fat and then losing weight, which that is a choice. So now let me ask you this, how would women on social media react if men talked 0:13:46 - 0:14:08 about saggy female bodies as often as women talk about men going bald as if it's an elective decision. So that is inconsistent, isn't it? It's dishonest, right? And it, and it doesn't matter how you feel about those things. I personally don't care about guys going bald. And my opinion on this also doesn't 0:14:08 - 0:14:33 matter because I'm not attracted to men, but I have no problem with the fact that, that I have less hair than I used to. I couldn't care less. Right. Doesn't bother me at all. So, it's about consistency here. And, um, there are a whole lot of examples like this where people aren't consistent. Like if 0:14:32 - 0:14:56 you want to say, hey, um men and women should be treated equally across the board. Ok, fine. What comes with that? What has to come with that? Equal health expenses, equal tax expenditures, equal draft, all those things have to come with it. Did you know that on average women do not pay taxes, men pay 0:14:56 - 0:15:20 way more than they get on average. Women don't pay more than they get. It's, it's, they are net takers as a gender. Is that fair about the draft? Is that fair? You know, and, and th this discussion was going on when, when uh female roles in the military were debate, get being debated on whether those 0:15:20 - 0:15:42 should expand the expansion of female roles in the military is being debated. Well, women don't have to register for the draft. Men do. Is that fair? If you're out there crying for women to get more of the, the benefits that men receive? Are you also out there crying for, for women to pay the same prices 0:15:41 - 0:16:04 that men pay. And if you're not, you're an inconsistent, irrational dishonest person and you should change. So that, that lines up in either direction, right in either direction. So, uh, we could keep going on this. But I think you get the point. There are some other really funny quips on this, like 0:16:03 - 0:16:24 , um, one of them says my problem is why is there a chair in the kitchen? So, yeah, there's some funny ones on here. Now, let's back this out to a more general thing and not about gender roles. When you see people going around crying slogans, like follow the science. How consistent are they in applying 0:16:23 - 0:16:44 that principle to the rest of their life? Is it just that they're saying what conveniently aligns with what their real motive is, which is to push a specific point and they're hiding behind the pretense of principle. Yes, it is. How can you tell these people who cry? Follow the science, follow the science 0:16:44 - 0:17:03 first off. Have, have they ever read the science? Have they ever looked up any paper ever? But, but more specifically, have they done the research required to claim that this is the the most rational consensus of the published literature or are they just echoing something that someone told them? But 0:17:03 - 0:17:28 moreover, how do those same people react when you say something like, hey, maybe as a society, we shouldn't support life decisions where 40% of the people who make those choices end up killing themselves like that sounds pretty scientific to me. Right. Isn't that rational? That something that ends in 0:17:27 - 0:17:55 self destruction? 40% of the time shouldn't be supported? Could it be called good? And yet those people will eviscerate you if you make that point. So, either follow the facts or don't, but don't claim you're following the facts only when it's, it's to support something that has nothing to do with the 0:17:55 - 0:18:14 facts. It's just if you believe it and you will grasp for anything that supports you in that case, even if it, if it proves that you're a hypocrite because you don't apply it evenly. What about equality? People scream for equality equa equality equality. Now they don't specify that what they mean is 0:18:14 - 0:18:41 equality of outcomes, which is very different than actual equality, which is equality under the law or as I like to say it in, in, you know, writing it in crayons. So no one can misunderstand. I like to say equal access to consequences, equal access to consequences is true. Equality. But these guys like 0:18:41 - 0:19:03 to, to use the word equality when they're talking about equality of outcome. All right. How does that work when you want? You also want credit for the good things that you do because at the end of the day, equality of outcomes has to mean that we are going to differentially ignore the merit of some people 0:19:02 - 0:19:26 that's absolutely required to have equality of outcomes. The only way you can have equality of outcomes is if you ignore the meritorious contribution of some people, which by definition is not very equal, is it? So you can't cry for equality? And then also want the good things that you do to be recognized 0:19:25 - 0:19:54 . Now, let me give you an example of this. There are many female and nonwhite doctors that are amazing. There are many, many, many of them. OK, I'm talking about medical doctors. However, the de I uh initiatives of medical schools have been so extreme in the past few years that now uh women and minorities 0:19:53 - 0:20:15 are admitted into med med school on something like 50% lower MC A T scores than white males. Think about that. So what they're doing is creating an environment where the assumption is is if you don't have a white male doctor, that doctor scored lower on the entrance exams to get into med school and therefore 0:20:15 - 0:20:38 is of lower merit unless they change their tune during med school, which if you talk to some people that run med schools is not happening. So that's not equality because if you do things like that, you're going to end up with unintended consequences that are very poor, right? And then we could do the 0:20:38 - 0:20:55 same game for Crying for justice, justice, justice, justice. OK. Fine. Cry for Justice. And hey, I'm actually on board with you. If there were a button, we could press and everything becomes. Exactly. Just right now I would be highly inclined to push it. I wouldn't push it. Right. The second for reasons 0:20:55 - 0:21:21 I don't want to get into, but in the near future I'd be all over it. So why do those same people also want all kinds of mercy for the bad choices they've made in the past? Because they're hypocrites. They are hypocrites. You can't have both. It's one or the other. So I hope that this sheds a little bit 0:21:21 - 0:21:43 more light on the plague of inconsistency. Now, one of the battlefields is, in fact, gender roles. It's a huge thing and it's so annoying to see every single day. And I'll tell you the people who are winning in that battle are women. It's a pr victory because they're cutting their own legs off. But this 0:21:43 - 0:22:04 is one reason that so many men are, are feeling disenfranchised right now. Uh Because it's all one sided. It's, it's like the argument, the arguments are being made, not rationally, but just uh under the color of rationality and it's all in one direction. And I'm telling you that there are a lot of people 0:22:04 - 0:22:27 getting sick and tired of it and uh things like this posts like this go out there. And I'm, I'm telling you, it doesn't matter how many people jump on here and affirm this. Um There are a whole lot of guys that are just rolling their eyes and saying, yeah, whatever. Enjoy being old and single because 0:22:27 - 0:22:49 it's just not worth it anymore. And more and more men are feeling that way and you can call those men names. You can say, oh, these are just incels, yada, yada, whatever. But there are a lot of high quality men among them. And this is part and parcel with women saying we're all the good men. What happened 0:22:49 - 0:23:09 to all the good men? This is what happens to them. You've created a situation where the risks are not worth the cost. And that's increasingly the case. Ok? It used to be that yes, men did expect for women to get heavier through marriage because guess what? It does get harder and harder to keep the weight 0:23:08 - 0:23:35 off as your estrogen declines as you have more kids. Uh Those are overlapping factors, but it also used to be the case that women knew that and looked expected it and looked for a guy knowing full well that the clock was ticking and eventually, you know, she was going to morph into something approximating 0:23:34 - 0:23:53 a refrigerator, but that's not the case anymore. They really think they're gonna stay nines first off. They, they think they're nines and tens. Every woman thinks she's a nine and a 10 today and they think they're gonna stay that way forever. And you, if you scroll here, you'll see so many women saying 0:23:52 - 0:24:15 , yeah, I couldn't believe, you know, I'm 40 plus now, I couldn't believe I was gonna change like this, but here's why that's ok. Yeah. Well, you see the difference, historically, women knew going into this and, and, and you know, they, they weren't raging about how women should be treated exactly the 0:24:15 - 0:00:00 same at work. Even though on the other hand while saying that out one side of their mouth, you see all these women also saying we should get one week of paid vacation every month for our periods because it's really hard to keep up performance during that week. You just don't feel like going to work. 0:00:00 - 0:24:54 Ok, fine. Choose one of those two things because you can't have both of them or we want, you know, one year of, of, uh paid leave after every baby we have OK, fine. But understand that that means you're disqualified for many, many jobs and you're going to get paid less, right? And, and these are things 0:24:53 - 0:25:14 you're not allowed to say, but they need to be said and, and because no one's saying them, that's why the overton window keeps shifting. And we've got this plague of inconsistency and these crazy people running around men and women with crazy ideas that clearly are self contradictory. Clearly, it's dishonest