0:00:00 - 0:00:27 I saw a news article recently of a father and, uh, he had shaken his newborn baby to death and it's something that seems to be, this sort of thing seems to be happening more often. And of course, the comments, everybody came down pretty hard on the guy. And, uh, I just wanted to say that in these cases 0:00:26 - 0:00:50 , I think that people should let off and it's not the guy's fault and this sort of thing just happens sometimes and we ought to have sympathy for him. I'm just kidding. Um, those sorts of things do happen. There are articles about them and, uh, I am a father of five kids and I know sometimes, especially 0:00:49 - 0:01:18 with, with the first baby or in our case, we had twins, first set of babies. Things can be really hard. Uh, they can be really hard but guess what? That does not excuse in any way, anyone doing anything to little babies. And, uh, that's a monstrous thing to do and there should be no sympathy for those 0:01:17 - 0:01:46 people in terms of making excuses for them. We should have pity on them for the horrible things that they've done and that they'll have to deal with but not make any excuses for them or, um, try to minimize the gravity of the situation. So, why did I pull that? Probably very unconvincing bait and switch 0:01:45 - 0:02:11 . Well, here's the real twist because I keep seeing all these nudist articles on moms who are losing their minds and killing their kids. And, um, I'm not talking about abortion, although that is absolutely, uh, in the same category, it's actually worse because the baby really has done nothing. But when 0:02:10 - 0:02:32 babies are born, um, you know, there's this thing called postpartum depression and every time there's an article recently uh about this happening more and more that moms lose their minds and kill their babies some time after birth um in the subsequent weeks or months and, and increasingly they kill themselves 0:02:32 - 0:00:00 or their husbands at the same time. Um People come out of the woodwork, making excuses for these ladies saying, oh, postpartum depression is real and it's hard. Ok, that as it may be that as it may be, here's the thing. What? Um and I think this is the takeaway for all people you need to understand, 0:00:00 - 0:03:23 right? So the, the question is why is this happening so frequently look at the comments section for why it's because people, it's not just because people are making excuses. That's, that's actually also a symptom of the real problem. But the, the real problem is um, not correctly viewing true consequences 0:03:22 - 0:04:00 and acting according to their weight. So um if you, yeah, we need to understand and remember and always live according to the fact that every decision you ever make is a chain. It's an infinite, it's a link in an infinite chain that extends way back to before we can see and it goes way forward, way beyond 0:04:00 - 0:04:24 what we can see and that's why this is happening. So um I'm trying to like throwing a rock, skipping a rock across water. I'm trying to stay out of the deep stuff here and just focus on a brief point. Um I really don't have the time to go deeper right now. But, and also I think there's a massive takeaway 0:04:24 - 0:04:52 that doesn't necessitate it. These ladies and, and the guys, they kill their kids, all these people doing very atrocious things in higher frequency today. It didn't start with that thing. It didn't start with the thing before that thing. These things do not come out of nowhere. It's a chain of decisions 0:04:52 - 0:05:21 . The problem is it requires wisdom and discernment to see the first few steps on the path and to marshal the um appropriate intensity and necessary intensity to head these things off and change direction. So how does it change? It changes when people realize this is actually just the consequence of 0:05:21 - 0:05:45 doing less than the best, you know, on a regular basis. You see there's no such thing as a little lie. There's no such thing as one thing you can do that's not so great and get away with. And somehow it's, it's uh independent from everything else. Everything touches everything else. Everything is a chain 0:05:45 - 0:06:12 and um it's a stream, it's a flow. And so, you know, you could look at any of these people, any of these cases. And I'm telling you, if you had a lens on their whole life, if you had a crystal ball, you'd see this, this web of decisions that culminated in this one terrible thing and maybe the things 0:06:12 - 0:06:38 directly preceding it, they're not always directly preceding it in time, but whatever they are, they were probably pretty bad too, not as bad but pretty bad. And if you keep going back in time, they, the events, the choices, they'll seem more innocuous as far as the world considers them to be. But as 0:06:38 - 0:07:02 you gain wisdom, you see all these things in a chain and, um, you have to, it, it's a, it's the only way to make good decisions to understand that there are things that, that have to follow certain things. They're unavoidable. And it's, it's a path where you take one step down and you're in it, you take 0:07:02 - 0:07:27 two steps down and you're two steps closer to this horrific end sin is everything that takes away that decays that causes to perish, that robs that steals it makes you weaker. And when you go in that direction, you're going towards everything in that direction and the end is death and hell and misery 0:07:27 - 0:07:51 for yourself and everyone you think you love today. So when we see these things, people just, you know, they get, I usually will talk down uh what normal people feel. And do I think in this case it's so horrific, normal people, their hearts tear in pieces when they see this and they're just like, I don't 0:07:51 - 0:08:15 know how to handle this because, but how do you define innocence other than Children? Right, young Children. And um, but then instead of looking in the mirror and say, saying what in my life is headed towards the same, uh along the same path, they, they think, well, I would never do anything like that 0:08:15 - 0:08:38 . And, and then they say, um, they make these excuses for these people. And I started with the bait and switch because we're not even in our critiques of the genders in this, in this uh in this specific situation and also zooming out a bit to a more general one. You know, we think men are the violent 0:08:38 - 0:09:01 ones. Men tend to be physically violent, but women are equally as violent, peer-reviewed studies. According to the literature, the folks who get paid to look into this sort of thing, women are equally violent, they just do it through other ways. They demean people, it's social violence, they demean people 0:09:00 - 0:09:30 , they falsely accuse people and uh and they, they get, um, it's reputation destruction is what it is. It's gossip, false accusations and all that jazz anyway. But the point is, um, people are much more willing to crack down on guys that do terrible things like this. And, um, that's, it's good that they 0:09:30 - 0:09:57 are cracking down, but we need to crack down on everyone because, um, the victim doesn't really care if the, um, if the guilty party is male or female anyway, sin will work its way into any space it's given. And, uh, we need to see decisions as chains, not just single things and it's really important 0:09:57 - 0:10:18 . It's also I could have redone this whole video in the positive aspect. Um, positive decisions. A lot of times we look at something and we say that's not worth it. I, I'll give you a really specific example. So I know someone who has relatively speaking, a bunch of money in savings. I think the average 0:10:18 - 0:10:48 American or the median, the median savings is like 5000 bucks or something. But, uh, a whole lot of Americans have nothing in savings or just a couple 100 bucks anyway. So this person sitting on quite a bit relative to $5000 but is new to the whole investment, try to make something with your money idea 0:10:48 - 0:11:09 . And so I said, hey, you got this money sitting around. Why don't you throw it into t bills? It's like 5.2% or something interest right now. And if, if you, because they don't really know what's coming as far as expenses and everything. And I said, if you just do four week t bills, you don't really 0:11:08 - 0:11:32 have much to lose and then you can at least get 5.2% interest. If something comes up, odds are, it can wait four weeks. Right. Uh, in, in, in this person's situation. And he said, yeah, but that's not that much money because he did 5.2% over uh 12, which is how many four week periods are in a year. So 0:11:31 - 0:11:56 he could annualize it. And uh he's thinking about exactly how much money, I mean, I said annualize uh bring it down to monthly level and um to calculate exactly how much money would come out of that four week spin. And he's like, that's not worth it. And I just, I thought uh look ahead man, if you acted 0:11:56 - 0:12:21 like this in a bunch of different ways, the culmination of it over time is gonna be exponentially better than what you're thinking right now. So things go down and things go up exponentially. It, it, it turns out most of the time. That's, that's kind of how it tends to go. And so, well, I think things 0:12:21 - 0:12:45 go down exponentially of their own accord. That's the natural gravitational pull. But uh you really have to fight for them to go up exponentially and each decision is gonna be one of these choices of whether you want to have the normality of just seeing one step ahead, seeing decisions singly one at 0:12:45 - 0:13:05 a time or the faith of chaining them together exponentially. And instead of thinking, you know, in this specific example, which is monetary, it's easy to measure and think about four weeks from now. Do I want to have an extra 100 bucks or whatever the amount is? Or if you're thinking 20 years from now 0:13:05 - 0:13:34 , this is where I'd like to be in life and then you back track to see what plausible path would yield that. So, anyway, um, each day and each decision, each moment matters and we need to be more aware of seemingly small decisions we make in the moment that in a chain could lead to terrible atrocities 0:00:00 - 0:00:27 I saw a news article recently of a father and, uh, he had shaken his newborn baby to death and it's something that seems to be, this sort of thing seems to be happening more often. And of course, the comments, everybody came down pretty hard on the guy. And, uh, I just wanted to say that in these cases 0:00:26 - 0:00:50 , I think that people should let off and it's not the guy's fault and this sort of thing just happens sometimes and we ought to have sympathy for him. I'm just kidding. Um, those sorts of things do happen. There are articles about them and, uh, I am a father of five kids and I know sometimes, especially 0:00:49 - 0:01:18 with, with the first baby or in our case, we had twins, first set of babies. Things can be really hard. Uh, they can be really hard but guess what? That does not excuse in any way, anyone doing anything to little babies. And, uh, that's a monstrous thing to do and there should be no sympathy for those 0:01:17 - 0:01:46 people in terms of making excuses for them. We should have pity on them for the horrible things that they've done and that they'll have to deal with but not make any excuses for them or, um, try to minimize the gravity of the situation. So, why did I pull that? Probably very unconvincing bait and switch 0:01:45 - 0:02:11 . Well, here's the real twist because I keep seeing all these nudist articles on moms who are losing their minds and killing their kids. And, um, I'm not talking about abortion, although that is absolutely, uh, in the same category, it's actually worse because the baby really has done nothing. But when 0:02:10 - 0:02:32 babies are born, um, you know, there's this thing called postpartum depression and every time there's an article recently uh about this happening more and more that moms lose their minds and kill their babies some time after birth um in the subsequent weeks or months and, and increasingly they kill themselves 0:02:32 - 0:00:00 or their husbands at the same time. Um People come out of the woodwork, making excuses for these ladies saying, oh, postpartum depression is real and it's hard. Ok, that as it may be that as it may be, here's the thing. What? Um and I think this is the takeaway for all people you need to understand, 0:00:00 - 0:03:23 right? So the, the question is why is this happening so frequently look at the comments section for why it's because people, it's not just because people are making excuses. That's, that's actually also a symptom of the real problem. But the, the real problem is um, not correctly viewing true consequences 0:03:22 - 0:04:00 and acting according to their weight. So um if you, yeah, we need to understand and remember and always live according to the fact that every decision you ever make is a chain. It's an infinite, it's a link in an infinite chain that extends way back to before we can see and it goes way forward, way beyond 0:04:00 - 0:04:24 what we can see and that's why this is happening. So um I'm trying to like throwing a rock, skipping a rock across water. I'm trying to stay out of the deep stuff here and just focus on a brief point. Um I really don't have the time to go deeper right now. But, and also I think there's a massive takeaway 0:04:24 - 0:04:52 that doesn't necessitate it. These ladies and, and the guys, they kill their kids, all these people doing very atrocious things in higher frequency today. It didn't start with that thing. It didn't start with the thing before that thing. These things do not come out of nowhere. It's a chain of decisions 0:04:52 - 0:05:21 . The problem is it requires wisdom and discernment to see the first few steps on the path and to marshal the um appropriate intensity and necessary intensity to head these things off and change direction. So how does it change? It changes when people realize this is actually just the consequence of 0:05:21 - 0:05:45 doing less than the best, you know, on a regular basis. You see there's no such thing as a little lie. There's no such thing as one thing you can do that's not so great and get away with. And somehow it's, it's uh independent from everything else. Everything touches everything else. Everything is a chain 0:05:45 - 0:06:12 and um it's a stream, it's a flow. And so, you know, you could look at any of these people, any of these cases. And I'm telling you, if you had a lens on their whole life, if you had a crystal ball, you'd see this, this web of decisions that culminated in this one terrible thing and maybe the things 0:06:12 - 0:06:38 directly preceding it, they're not always directly preceding it in time, but whatever they are, they were probably pretty bad too, not as bad but pretty bad. And if you keep going back in time, they, the events, the choices, they'll seem more innocuous as far as the world considers them to be. But as 0:06:38 - 0:07:02 you gain wisdom, you see all these things in a chain and, um, you have to, it, it's a, it's the only way to make good decisions to understand that there are things that, that have to follow certain things. They're unavoidable. And it's, it's a path where you take one step down and you're in it, you take 0:07:02 - 0:07:27 two steps down and you're two steps closer to this horrific end sin is everything that takes away that decays that causes to perish, that robs that steals it makes you weaker. And when you go in that direction, you're going towards everything in that direction and the end is death and hell and misery 0:07:27 - 0:07:51 for yourself and everyone you think you love today. So when we see these things, people just, you know, they get, I usually will talk down uh what normal people feel. And do I think in this case it's so horrific, normal people, their hearts tear in pieces when they see this and they're just like, I don't 0:07:51 - 0:08:15 know how to handle this because, but how do you define innocence other than Children? Right, young Children. And um, but then instead of looking in the mirror and say, saying what in my life is headed towards the same, uh along the same path, they, they think, well, I would never do anything like that 0:08:15 - 0:08:38 . And, and then they say, um, they make these excuses for these people. And I started with the bait and switch because we're not even in our critiques of the genders in this, in this uh in this specific situation and also zooming out a bit to a more general one. You know, we think men are the violent 0:08:38 - 0:09:01 ones. Men tend to be physically violent, but women are equally as violent, peer-reviewed studies. According to the literature, the folks who get paid to look into this sort of thing, women are equally violent, they just do it through other ways. They demean people, it's social violence, they demean people 0:09:00 - 0:09:30 , they falsely accuse people and uh and they, they get, um, it's reputation destruction is what it is. It's gossip, false accusations and all that jazz anyway. But the point is, um, people are much more willing to crack down on guys that do terrible things like this. And, um, that's, it's good that they 0:09:30 - 0:09:57 are cracking down, but we need to crack down on everyone because, um, the victim doesn't really care if the, um, if the guilty party is male or female anyway, sin will work its way into any space it's given. And, uh, we need to see decisions as chains, not just single things and it's really important 0:09:57 - 0:10:18 . It's also I could have redone this whole video in the positive aspect. Um, positive decisions. A lot of times we look at something and we say that's not worth it. I, I'll give you a really specific example. So I know someone who has relatively speaking, a bunch of money in savings. I think the average 0:10:18 - 0:10:48 American or the median, the median savings is like 5000 bucks or something. But, uh, a whole lot of Americans have nothing in savings or just a couple 100 bucks anyway. So this person sitting on quite a bit relative to $5000 but is new to the whole investment, try to make something with your money idea 0:10:48 - 0:11:09 . And so I said, hey, you got this money sitting around. Why don't you throw it into t bills? It's like 5.2% or something interest right now. And if, if you, because they don't really know what's coming as far as expenses and everything. And I said, if you just do four week t bills, you don't really 0:11:08 - 0:11:32 have much to lose and then you can at least get 5.2% interest. If something comes up, odds are, it can wait four weeks. Right. Uh, in, in, in this person's situation. And he said, yeah, but that's not that much money because he did 5.2% over uh 12, which is how many four week periods are in a year. So 0:11:31 - 0:11:56 he could annualize it. And uh he's thinking about exactly how much money, I mean, I said annualize uh bring it down to monthly level and um to calculate exactly how much money would come out of that four week spin. And he's like, that's not worth it. And I just, I thought uh look ahead man, if you acted 0:11:56 - 0:12:21 like this in a bunch of different ways, the culmination of it over time is gonna be exponentially better than what you're thinking right now. So things go down and things go up exponentially. It, it, it turns out most of the time. That's, that's kind of how it tends to go. And so, well, I think things 0:12:21 - 0:12:45 go down exponentially of their own accord. That's the natural gravitational pull. But uh you really have to fight for them to go up exponentially and each decision is gonna be one of these choices of whether you want to have the normality of just seeing one step ahead, seeing decisions singly one at 0:12:45 - 0:13:05 a time or the faith of chaining them together exponentially. And instead of thinking, you know, in this specific example, which is monetary, it's easy to measure and think about four weeks from now. Do I want to have an extra 100 bucks or whatever the amount is? Or if you're thinking 20 years from now 0:13:05 - 0:13:34 , this is where I'd like to be in life and then you back track to see what plausible path would yield that. So, anyway, um, each day and each decision, each moment matters and we need to be more aware of seemingly small decisions we make in the moment that in a chain could lead to terrible atrocities 0:13:33 - 0:13:40 . And that's, that's absolutely something we should all be worried about.