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All right, this is gonna be a fun video. So, um, I, I've collated a bunch of, uh, news articles here, uh, that I'll refer to. Um, but, uh, the other day, uh, this guy who is on CNN, Don Lemon, uh, he used to have the prime time slot and his ratings were horrific. So they demoted him to a morning show with co-host, which is, I guess, uh, quite the downgrade if you're a news anchor. And, um, the other day he got into hot water because, uh, Nikki Haley announced that she was running for president and he said that she was past her prime and specifically, he said that women are past their prime in their fifties. And, uh, I'm gonna talk about that. Uh, not because, uh, it particularly matters in the political sphere. Um, although I think it does, but, uh, because it, it ties into a much bigger picture, you see a lot of the things that I take time to talk about or write about what I'm trying to do is point to, uh, transcendent principles that are sort of of a higher order. Um, because those things you see, it grabs our attention at some specific facet in some specific facet. But um we can um basically back propagate that information, that's kind of a a jargony word. We can um we can connect that information into more generic ideas. And then uh when we have that transcendent version of that information, we can turn around and then um help it contribute to our understanding of other applications. So um this is uh this is basically a way of taking rules and uh extracting generic ideas from them principles and then taking those principles and either applying them to other existing rules or, or generating new rules which um encapsulate and go along with those same ideas at the generic level. And also one thing that we address here is the importance of saying the things that you're not allowed to say. Um and that is actually a really important topic that I don't want to pretend to do justice to in this video. Uh As usual, we're going to touch on many, many things um that could be elaborated into much longer formats. Side note um is an example of this so many times, I've, I've spoken of this phrase, hidden holiness, um which will seem weird to someone if they're just coming onto this video without having as a reference, anything else I've said or done. Um But we need to start wrapping our heads around ideas that can't be thoroughly understood or even people who cannot be thoroughly understood in a short exposure. Um If you limit what you're willing to think about to what can fit into a tweet, you're in big trouble because the world's a lot more complicated than that. And if you enforce that shallowness of thinking, you're gonna end up with a life that's ill prepared for the complexities that it contains that are, that are unavoidable, in fact. So the other day, uh I came across a book, um and the topic is not important, but it's one that I've thought about for years a lot. And every time, uh I see someone who's written or, or spoken about things that have interested me, I get excited because when I learn something, um when I learn something but not from other people, when I generate ideas in my mind, uh which I would actually describe as discovering things. And of course, I credit God for all understanding. But uh when I, when I, when I perceive that I have a novel idea, uh and especially when I have a collection of related novel ideas, the first thing I hope for is that someone else has already figured this out because uh when I have a novel idea, I feel a burden that I need to share this with other people. It's a very tangible thing to me. And uh there's only so much time and I already have uh sufficient ideas that I could not fit that into a working lifetime. There's no way. I mean, just the other day, uh I was, I was getting into the shower after a morning routine and in the process of three seconds, I had so many ideas and I don't want to pretend that this is how every second of my day is occupied. But this is a very regular thing that I'm about to describe. I had so many ideas stream across my mind that uh I had no hope of doing what I typically do, which is I'll actually turn off the shower and I have a notepad in the bathroom and a pen for this reason. So when things come , I can record them and I knew that there was no hope of me recording anything. This is gonna be one of those. If I turn off the shower and go to the pad, uh I might get two sentences because there's just so much I, I don't even have the capacity to start to unpack it. And I realized that uh if I were to grab someone with, you know, uh an average uh ability to understand just a capable person, we could sit one on one for two months, perhaps full time, 40 hours a week. Um And that's what it would take for me to lay out, which just ran across my head in three seconds. So, um that's interesting and we need to start wrapping our heads around the fact uh around a broader understanding of now, I can phrase that better. We need to start wrapping our heads around a much broader diversity of um, understanding and capacity to understand and really expand our minds in terms of what's possible in people. And uh that's important for at least two reasons. One is if you don't understand what's possible for you, um, you'll certainly miss the opportunities to grow into that. And two is if you don't understand what's possible in people, you absolutely won't recognize them when you meet them and then you can't take advantage of that. So um the importance of saying things that uh you're not allowed to say that is an enormous topic. But part of the reason that's important is um we are made in the image of God and our components. One way of categorizing what we are is that we're a body, we are a spirit and we have access to God's spirit in those three components, our body, our spirit and God's spirit, they're very important to understand and that it's really important for all three of them to be aligned. The problem is that um and, and actually let's subdivide that and say our heart, our mind, our spirit and God's spirit and our body externally. Yeah. OK. So external body, mind, heart, uh spirit and God's spirit. It's five components. And all those have to be perfectly aligned to get the most out of what we're designed to do. And it's extraordinarily rare to meet someone in whom those five things are perfectly aligned. And uh I won't get into explaining just how rare that is or why that's so rare. But it turns out that when we feel something, we don't align everything else to that. Now, you can't align God's spirit to anything. You just align yourself to it, it won't change. But uh let's set that one aside for a moment. So the parts that are in you that are from you, um, when you feel something and you don't align your, uh, your mind to it and your body to it, that, um, that disagreement causes a lot of problems and it's, it's something where, um, you know, if you have a physical system and let's say it's like a bearing, you have a bearing spinning around in a fan or something and one of it's a, it's a, it's a set of bearings and one of those bearings isn't spinning. You're gonna have a problem because it's gonna generate a lot of heat and a really loud noise. If you've ever turned on a bathroom fan, it just sounds like something's dead in there. Uh, or something's crying, screaming, maybe, um, you got a bearing problem and uh sometimes that can be fixed with some oil but sometimes the bearing is bad and it needs to be replaced or else the whole thing is gonna go up because the motor can't fight against that, that friction. It's not designed to do that. And every single time you get, you use it, it will move closer and closer to braking and eventually it'll just break. But it's in a state of degradation. And when we're not aligned, we're in a state of degradation. So to be a holistic person , to be fully aligned, you have to bring all those things together. And more often than not when we're talking about feelings, it's something where you need to change your feeling, to align with your mind and with your, with your body and with your spirit, but mostly your mind and your spirit. So, um and how distinct those are and how much they overlap is not really important right now. Mind and spirit for the purpose of, of what I'm saying right now. So, um it turns out that uh when there's a misalignment and there's this friction, things wear down and it turns out that um when there's a misalignment , what we have to change, um, it's not always the, the thing that's running counter, sometimes it's the other stuff and I just explain the example of, of something you feel. And again, I'm just touching on a lot of stuff here. I'll go into more detail in other avenues here. But um at, at different times , I mean, it's totally possible to change your feelings. And most of the time when we're talking about feelings, that's exactly the right thing to do and there's a reason or there's a way of doing that and that is to use your ability to think and act. And it's a fundamental idea. You can absolutely change the way you feel through what you choose to do and what you choose not to do. And that's a huge topic and it should be common sense and second nature. But our culture has pushed that far into the periphery of, I mean, people think it's impossible even and there's nothing you can do and you have to take pills or you have to do this or you have to do that. Well, uh OK. And they, they contort their bodies in terms of the actions they take with them and the things they put into them and they contort their minds to conform to their feelings or to work around them. And uh that's not what we're designed to do. And not surprisingly, it doesn't work. So, um what does that have anything to do with Don Lemon? Well, a lot actually, but I'll try to keep it focused on what I intended to talk about. Don Lemon said again that women in their fifties are past their prime. He did not, at first he didn't um qualify that specifically to the realm of politics, which may have been what he meant. And later he backpedaled and tried to get out of this hole. He had a female co-host who is highly offended by what he said, which isn't surprising for various reasons. But uh, he's in hot water and he probably just ended his whatever was left of his career because when you're, well, you've heard the phrase, uh, you can't convince someone to believe something that goes against, uh, their paycheck. Um, that, that's obviously a paraphrase but, um, uh, a version of this quote might go something like, um, don't speak against the things, don't speak against the beliefs of the people who pay you. Um, and political. Uh, I'm sorry, news organizations, there's not really much of a difference these days, news or excuse me, news organizations so called our echo chambers. And those people get paid to say a specific thing, they're not paid as freethinkers whose job it is to share their wisdom with people who are, um, with people who come to them presuming that they know more than they do. Um, instead they're, they're just, they're paid to say what people want to think of a certain class of thought and, uh, and that's their job anyway. So when you go against that, you can, you can guarantee you're not going to have a job. And unfortunately, news organizations have become this way. Universities have certainly become this way and churches have as well. If a preacher stood up at the pulpit and you think, well, um, a preacher or priest, it doesn't matter what the title is, but the guy or girl and the head of the congregation, they are put there by the congregants allegedly for what reason? I mean, why is that person at the pulpit? And everyone else is sitting in the pews because they have something to say that's more valuable than what the other people would say. Right? But often too often today, maybe universally, those people are installed to echo what the other people already think. What's the purpose of that? Just to feel good about how they already are. There's no improvement there and that's a travesty. And so all these institutions that allegedly are designed to improve people are actually just uh maintaining them at best. And actually you have a hard time in nature finding any system that has stasis that stays the same. Everything is either growing or decaying all the time. Even a rock is in a state of decay. That's a pretty crazy thought. Um Any who so lemon came out and said he dared to say that women have a prime and therefore it can, you can be past your prime. That was his crime number one. Now, let's just state what should be abundantly obvious, but no one's allowed to say. And for that reason, a lot of bad things happen and bad can just be suboptimal or it could be um a catastrophe. And I would argue that we're in a state of catastrophe in society today because people are not allowed to say that the human body and the human mind have a best buy date. So I'm a man, it turns out, um, and here's a phrase you almost never hear as a man, uh, you'll hear as a woman very often. And I hate both of these phrases because uh more often than not what people are, um insinuating by saying them is that there's no such thing as objective, rational, uh observation or reasoning. And that so called lived experience trumps all of that. And I think that's ridiculous. I think if something's true, it's true. Whether you're a woman or a man, I'm not saying it doesn't apply to those people differently. You can classify all things by their distinctions. But anyway, sometimes it is appropriate to say because as a man, I can tell you men age it turns out right. I'm 39 and I feel way different than I did when I was 28. And when I was 28 I felt uh noticeably different to when I was 18. And when I was 18, a lot of things were really different than when I was 10. Turns out. Right. It turns out, uh when I started working , I was eight years old. Um I was doing some, some, um menial work on construction sites for my grandfather who had a company doing that. I was picking up trash and uh I remember that I really couldn't do anything. I was picking up concrete rubble, putting it into a trash can that had wheels and then hauling that thing up a plank into a dump trailer and it was hard work for a little kid and I worked all day and I got like $2 for it or something. And, um, I remember being 16 fast forward and my grandfather put me in charge of another person and that other person was much older than me and had been working in that field for a long time. This is just during the summers, uh, that was working for him. But guess what, there was a huge difference in my physical ability between when I was eight and when I was 16. And I remember being, uh 22 or something, um, and working for my grandfather over summer and, uh realizing that I had grown in uh physical capability to be able to do anything he could do and in fact, do a little bit more because he had reached an age where he was starting to be noticeably limited physically. Uh I remember there was a time when my grandfather is a very fearless man, but one of the two times I saw him scared. Well, it was always heights. Uh, and that was probably because he just had more sense than me. Um, but, um, it was funny because at this time, both of us had jumped out of airplanes in the army. He, he had done it much more than me. But, uh, we were looking at this roof that was particularly steep and we had to get up to the top to, it was just like a porch roof. It was a very narrow thing, but it was ridiculously steep and there was no good way to get up there and, uh, we could get a ladder to the base, but you had to get to the peak somehow. And he was a little scared. And so, um, he always took a nap at lunchtime and then I would just keep working. Um And so he said, I'm gonna take a nap. This is a good time for me to take a nap. Uh I'll be back and I said, what am I supposed to do? He's like, I don't know. So he went in the truck and I said, forget this. I have better things to do. So I took these two wonder bars. Um And or no, there was just one, but I took this wonder bar which is kind of like a, a squared flat crowbar thing. And, uh, I, I got up there. It was two. Yeah, it was two. I had one in each hand and I went up the ladder and I just flung myself from the ladder up to the top of the peak. So I had to, I just, just kind of threw the wonder bar onto the peak. And then with my other hand, I was taking all the shingles off like a madman before I fell. And then when I was done, I just slid and hoped I caught the ladder and I did and, uh, I just kind of turned off my brain and did it and I finished up just as he woke up and I got down the ladder. He's like, what have you been up to? I said, well, I finished it and he looked up and he's like, he's like, dang, how'd you do that? I was like, I don't know. But the rest is your problem. I'm going in the truck. So that was the fair trade. Um because I had done the hard part. But anyway, but there's changes, the physical changes, right? And I remember when I was 28 we have pictures of this in our photo albums, but I did this crazy renovation project on this, this house we bought and I, I won't go into all the changes that I made on this house is just nuts though. The amount of physical labor was insane and I was doing it while I was a company commander in the National Guard, which was, that took a lot of time and it was just a constant thing. It, it couldn't be batched. It was just responsive because I'd get a phone call or an email and I'd have to work because things came up all the time and I was the guy and I was also phd student at the time and that was extremely time consuming. I had a lot of stuff going on and um, looking back at that time, uh, it just makes me tired to think about it, you know. And, uh, that was just 11 years ago. So I'm 39 today and, uh, I get hurt a lot more often when I'm working out in the yard or lifting weights. I, I just get hurt. I'm not, I'm not doing anything wrong. It's just wear and tear and when I do get hurt it takes a lot more time to recover. I have to take a lot more rest days between my workouts, you know, so that's life, right? And those differences, the body is a complex thing, but a lot of them come down to sex hormones and growth hormone, right? And I say that in plural, but for men, it's really is testosterone and human growth hormone and those things wane as you get older. So it turns out that um if for men, at least these, these changes are very slight over time, they tend to be, but they make a difference in aggregate. And so if you take something, I'm gonna show you, you know, if you're a guy watching this. So this this stuff, I'll put a link in the description. I I've tried a lot of different supplements. I take vitamins, you know, I've got pre workout and vitamins up on that dresser behind me. Um This is like my staging area in the morning where I don't want to wake people up. So I come in here and we use the space for that. Um, but, um, this is a guest bedroom that I'm in. So I don't wake up my wife in my morning routine. Um, but this, this supplement, I mean, it makes a difference and there's other stuff out there. But this, I'll take two of these pills, uh, like an hour before I do my workout and it makes a huge difference . It's great. It's great. And you feel great. Um So, so there's something to it, right? And, but this isn't a magical thing. It, it doesn't like, make you magically feel like you're 18 again. But my point is when, when, you know, if you could flip a switch and up your testosterone as a guy, you absolutely feel 10 years younger, right? I know a lot of people on testosterone replacement therapy. It's a for guys uh injecting testosterone. There's some other things you do with, with deodorant or whatever. Um It makes an enormous difference if you're getting up there in years. Right? And, and the everybody who does that will tell you, oh, this is amazing. Ok. That's the guy side of things, right? Sorry. It's not the full picture so that we're talking physical things, but it turns out the testosterone absolutely affects your mood. It affects your um your, your, your intrinsic confidence that you can make a difference in the world and that it's worth doing. That's if you're a lady that I'm telling you. That's what it is. Right. For a guy. So, um, it's an amazing thing. Uh, there's a guy out there who Doug Wilson who's controversial warning. Um, I, I like him. I think he's, he's hilarious. He's very smart but his quote is testosterone builds stuff and I agree with that testosterone builds stuff. It's a chemical that makes a guy crazy enough to think he can make a difference in the world being one person. Uh It also drives a lot of other things, right. Um So, uh anyway, um that's all mostly physical stuff , but you see it crosses over to how you feel and it absolutely affects how you think when your testosterone is low, you can't really think very clearly and you're just kind of tired all the time and it's not just a physical tiredness, although that is part of it. It's a mental tiredness. And also you uh really struggle with dealing with stress. Testosterone is an amazing hormone because it causes um people to react, not people, it causes men uh to react to stress by trying to do something about it. So you ever wonder if you're a lady and you're talking to your guy and you start unloading your problems on him and he starts spouting off potential solutions for those problems. And you say no, but I just want someone to listen, you need to talk to another lady because testosterone is gonna fix your problems it's not there to hear your problems, it's there to, to fix your problems. Right. So, um, anyway , that's, that's a, that's the mental part of it and the feeling part of it and the physical part of it. Right. Well, guess what newsflash there are female equivalents for all of those things. So, um, when you talk about women and you look into female sex hormones, uh, obviously females have growth hormone as well. Uh by the way, that has an earlier onset and a shorter duration than men. Um but I if you look at the sex hormones, it's a cocktail and usually we just sort of sum that up and talk about estrogen, but there are actually several and they're all important and they all have effects and you can look at other videos for this. It's a, it's a travesty that Cindy Hughes series on females has so few views. She goes into all this in depth is a wonderful resource and I would check that out if I were you, I'll put that in the description as well. Um It's just a crime that that has so few views. Um It's extremely important for everyone to know and if you say, well, I'm a guy, I don't need to know this. Yes, you do. And uh you could say, well, I don't have any daughters. I don't need to know this. Yes, you do. If you have a son, you need to teach him these things as well because they're not gonna learn these things anywhere else. Ok. So, um, female sex hormones also affect their physical characteristics, their emotional characteristics and their mental characteristics. And this is very, very important. Ok. Now, um, when we talked about aging men age very slowly compared to women. And that's a fact and people just need to get over it because if you want to deny reality, you're not actually gonna help anything. You might feel a little bit better about yourself in the moment, but your life is gonna be a train wreck. That doesn't need to happen that way. You need to learn reality and then change yourself to conform with it instead of fighting against it. And it's not a bad thing. You can't lose something you never actually had. So there's no value in illusion and that's something that everyone needs to, to wrap their heads around and get with the program. So, um, men age slower but then you get this all of a sudden. So it's real slow and then all at once, that's how men, uh male aging happens. And you see this, um, I heard a story once where this, you know, I don't, maybe it's just a generation but old guys like they, they get to this point where they cling to things like being able to drive as the physical sign of their independence. And there comes a moment where old people shouldn't drive anymore and it's almost never the case that they surrender that willingly. Right. So, maybe they take their driver's test and they get bounced because they can't react in time or whatever, whatever the test is in the state. But more often than not, it's a child that has to intervene or set of Children. But, uh, I heard a story where an old guy, um, was getting dementia and the family knew it and they were just kind of trying to roll with it and make it as best they could for him. But one day he went to on a very routine drive and he got lost and he came home after being lost for quite some time and he handed his keys over and he said, don't let me ever find these again. I can't do this anymore. It's not safe. Which, uh, you know, it's a sad story, but that's actually, um, I think there's a lot of, uh, uh, courage and that a lot of strength takes courage to recognize unpleasant truth. So I see God in that. But, uh, so guys, you know, like I, I always tell stories about my grandfather and he worked basically until the day he died, um, doing construction which is crazy. And, uh, he was a tough son of a gun. But, um, mhm. I remember when, uh, he came to visit me, um, just a few years before he died and I, I had seen him pretty often and, and you know, we worked together and he was just always this rock. And when he was out here, I was excited because I was like, oh, we can get done so many projects. And sure enough, um he did help me with some things that were far beyond my skill capacity because even as his this important point, even as his physical body declined, I mentioned when I was in my early twenties, I I exceeded him in the physical but not in the mental because he had just a wealth of experience in all things related to his work and a lot of other things too. And, um, so I had to, I had a huge problem with my septic system and I was like, ah, can you help me do this? And so we, I took some time off work for his visit and we rented a little mini excavator and he was Johnny on the spot with that thing and he had a blast because he loves doing stuff like that. And he got to sit and he was using his brain, not his body so much, but he nailed it and he told me exactly what to do and I was his hands, you know, um, but he was helping me out there and that was awesome. But then when we got out into my garden, I had to put in a bunch of fencing and we use this really heavy. Oh, it's so annoying. Really? Heavy, um, metal welded wire and we're getting that all set up. And so I said, look, I'm gonna squish my fingers if you've ever worked with that stuff. You know what I mean? Man, it's a painful, um, this is CIA should adopt this as a torture tactic. I've learned a lot on the farm about that potential torture tactics for the CIA to use. That's one thing and then chickens are another thing. They should absolutely use those things are vicious. But anyway, um, I'd roll out the fencing and then he had to use this wire to tie it to the tee post. And I thought that would be a really great job for him because all you have to do is pull it tight and then wind it around and, uh, his hands were getting so bad that he couldn't do it. And he, but he tried and he really didn't want to admit it that he couldn't do it. And I noticed it pretty quickly. I tend to notice things and, um, I felt so terrible because I could see him struggling and I could see that it was a, it was a, it was much more than a physical struggle. He was struggling with his self identity and doing this. And , uh, I, I felt bad for not having thought that that might be a problem and not anticipating it because obviously, you know, I don't wanna hurt people. So, um, thank goodness it was hot and I said, grandpa, I'm getting kind of hot. Can we just go inside and he's like, yeah, yeah, let's do that. So it's true. I was getting hot but you know, whatever. So um that was a wake up call for me to, to sort of wrap my head around my own aging and because there's always signs, right? It's, it's just a continuous process and you gotta be realistic about it. OK? So now let's, let's talk about the ladies. Um So whereas men age very slowly and then all at once, um ladies just continuously age and um guys come into their prime, slower women start at their prime. This is an uncomfortable truth, deal with it. It's biology, there's nothing we can do about it when a girl becomes a woman and you set that age at 18 because that's the legal definition. Sure find whatever who cares, right? But whenever that happens, that is her prime. Now here's some arguments that you're gonna hear about this. Um One you're gonna hear, well, that might be her physical prime but not her mental prime. A woman's gonna get smarter and you know, character wise, she's gonna grow and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Uh All right. I mean, I think you'd be hard pressed to make an argument against the fact that a woman will be more mentally mature as she goes through more life experiences, same thing with a guy. But there's another dimension that at some point, the graphs are gonna overtake each other. And that is this. Um, well, it's, it's multidimensional but you could, you could narrow it down to just calling it energy or mood. And there's something to this. Ok. Like my grandfather at 70 had wisdom, but he didn't have energy. The guy had to take two naps a day. Um You know, he wasn't really excited to get up there on the roof and he really, he had amazing willpower to get himself to do those things. But that's very different than being a spry 25 year old, you know, flying up the ladder kind of guy. Let's see who can put the, the greatest number of bundles of shingles on their shoulders and go up this ladder. And by the way, it doesn't hurt with every step. There's an immense difference between those two things and it turns out that, you know, being angry at God or nature for this, but those things happen much earlier for women . Ok. So that's, that's like the physical side of things. And we talked a little bit about mood and energy, but let's dive deeper into this. So I watched a TED talk from a lady who's, this is, she's a scientist and this is her field of female hormones. Um So I believe she was an endocrinologist. That makes sense, but she was in her forties and she, so she had every vested interest to present this TED talk in a room full of women in the most positive light possible. And still the thesis of her whole talk was when women go through menopause, they lose 30% of their energy for life. It stays relatively , it, it's, it, it decays much slower after that. But there is a sudden cliff of 30% and there's nothing you can do to get out of that. So she showed um, studies and she had data on this. But um what she showed was, it's, it's not that women lose 30% of their ability to think. They can still think. They don't just magically, you know, lose brain cells or something. But everything slows down, everything slows down and they just don't have the energy and this, this is uh brain energy, it's physical energy, it's mood, everything 30% all of a sudden for life, right? So that happens with men way later, way later. OK. And um there are reasons for that. Um But um what does this have to do with Don Lemon? OK. Lemon said, well, woman's in her prime in her twenties, her thirties, she could even argue her forties, but by her fifties she's passed her prime. What did he mean by prime? I have no idea. It's funny prime. This is called prime test. There's a lot of crimes here. Um I don't know what he meant by that, but the fact is we could argue about when it happens. We can argue about what dimension we're talking about, looks energy mood. But the fact is there is a prime people do age. This was one of the biggest things I got canceled for saying and I'm sorry that I'm not sorry. It's just a fact. And if you don't like it, it just means you have massive disappointment and uh shock coming your way when life slaps you upside the head and it happens to you. We have to understand this and prepare for it and live according to it. So um it happens, it happens with everybody, whether you're a man or a woman, it's gonna happen differently if you're a man versus a woman. But it will happen. And there are differences in women among women and among men. As far as when it happens, I have two friends who are about my age who have serious fertility issues, right? And um that's just you don't really talk about that as guys. But I know these folks well enough and I know this is an issue, right? And I know societally that's a huge problem right now where guys are having these sorts of issues much younger than they used to for various reasons. Um But this is so that, that's variation and that's not going to be the case for every guy. So there's variation among men, there's variation among women. Some women go through menopause in their early forties and some go through menopause a lot later, but it happens and it is a real thing that really changes how a lady is and she will be very different during that and she will be very different after that and that's how she'll be for the rest of her life. Give or take. But that's like the new her for the rest of her life. So, um there's a lady named Louise Perry. She's a British woman and she is a feminist, but she's like a reformed feminist, I guess that's my title. Um Because uh she is very much against uh current perceptions about, uh I guess you could say women's issues. And uh she wrote a book, she's done a lot of interviews recently. She was interviewed by Jordan Peterson and actually , I wouldn't recommend the interview because I don't know what he had a bad day. Uh He's just off and he spoke way more than he should and it was rambling and for me to call someone out on being rambly, you know, it's bad. Um And I'm a fan of Jordan Peterson and I'm a fan of Louise Perry and I, I didn't like the interview at all. I think he would have done better to just say nothing, let her speak. But um she has a lot of points that are worth listening to that are relevant to society today. She's an extremely intelligent, well spoken person, but she put forward this, uh this structure, I guess of women and age uh periods of female life, I guess you could say. And she said um the three she mentioned were maiden, um mother and matriarch and I like that. Uh three isn't enough. Uh There are at least five phases of life for a woman. There are fewer for men than there are for women. Um So a man is, is like a boy, I mean, everyone's a baby and then, and then uh for the guys, you boy and then you're a teenager and then you're a man and you're just a man for the rest of your life of your life until you're a really old guy. And that's basically you're dying, right? And uh the, the changes as a man are subtle enough that, that you could just call all of that one category. And it's most of your life for a woman, you start out as a baby, no surprise. And then you're a little girl and then you're a teenager and then you're a woman. But the, you gotta to subdivide the woman, right? So that woman phase, you're a young woman and then you uh I don't know what the names for these would be. But basically, there's two phases while you're fertile. And the one phase is when you're younger in that phase and the other phase is when you're older in that phase. And you know, there are even medical terms for this. If you get pregnant in your later fertile years. They call that a geriatric pregnancy. I'm shocked they haven't changed that one yet because they've changed the names for everything else to conform to our sentiments, but not that one yet. Um And then you go through menopause, right? And you're in menopause . So that's one phase. And um that's usually a phase where it's not very pleasant to be around ladies and then you're out of menopause and then that's the final, the second to last phase of your life where that's the stable, that's who you are for the longest period of life uh in adulthood. So I'll say that again, ladies are post menopausal, that phase, the post menopausal phase is the majority of an adult female's life. Um And that's important because no one wraps their head. No one's thinking about how they're gonna be as a post menopausal woman and a woman is, they're not thinking of that as their identity. And guys certainly aren't thinking about that when they're dating them or when they're married to them. Uh Guys tend to be quite oblivious about this and many other things. Um And then there's the old dying lady phase. So guys have a dying phase. Women have a dying phase. So, um and I guess you could characterize the dying phases when you're not independent anymore. Uh When you depend on other people like a child does and that's just a phase. Almost everyone goes through unless you drop dead of a heart attack which certain life changes, cer certain life choices recently might increase the odds of. But anyway, um, so, um, yeah, I guess that's kind of all there is to it. The, the fact is that there are phases in a man's life and in a woman's life and why aren't we allowed to talk about them? But what I like about what Louise Perry said is, um, there is a tremendous amount of good and value in each of these phases. And she said she was talking about only fans and things like that and how the maiden phase has been corrupted and artificially extend it. And I thought that was really interesting. So Maiden means virgin. That's if you read about maidens in the Bible, they're talking about virgins , they're talking about women who have not been with men. And um, you know, there's, there's value to that and to that phase, there's very, there's value attached to that phase. Um And we have corrupted that because you can be in the maiden phase today without being a maiden. It's like you're a pretend maiden, right? And then, um that is, is artificially extended as long as we possibly can. So, on the one hand, we've corrupted the value of that phase by making it something other than it is. And on the other hand, we've corrupted it even more by stretching it into periods of time, phases of life that are not it. And, and when you adulterate something, when you mix something with something, it's not the quality of what it was has to degrade and that's what's happened. So, um, you can put your own age limit on it and it's gonna vary by person, their qualities of this, that degrade with age. But if you stretch it out longer than it's supposed to go, it has to degrade in quality what it is has changed. Right? That's the maiden phase. And then there's the mother phase and we can make a long video on how that's been corrupted. And it is an absolute crime that we devalue mothers as much as we do in society. I think that I, I struggle to imagine what positive things could be said about mothers that would, would be sufficient to, to describe how positive that is and how valuable that is. And um I think every day of my life, the amount of value that I um perceive in motherhood just increases um the relationship between parents and kids. I, I don't know what's more valuable than that in life as far as um as far as a conveyance of uh meaning and value and sacrifice. Like what good can you do on this planet? I don't know how anything could compare to being a parent. And that's for father and for a mother and um father's um don't sacrifice their lives. You're not gonna die by impregnating someone. I mean, you know, you can get an STD or something. But, I mean, you're not bearing the child and you're not, uh, giving birth and you're not the one that has to get up all night feeding the baby. You don't make the milk. Right. And so it is an enormous commitment sacrifice. It's a consummate thing and it's huge and it doesn't end there. It's a lifelong sacrifice and it's beautiful. That's the only word you could, you could use to describe it. Um So there's value in that and has that been corrupted ? Absolutely. So we degrade mothers. We have stolen that from them and we pretend that men can be mothers. Um Today don't get me started and um in, in more ways than one that, that men try to be surrogates for mothers in many ways. Um We've, we've promoted this idea that that other things that women could do in that phase of their life have any comparison whatsoever in value. Um We have also delayed this so long that the contribution that the mother makes is vastly decreased. So if a woman doesn't have her first child until her mid thirties, um I'm sorry that child is getting ripped off because of that degrading energy. Um I'm sorry, there's, it's just, and the lady's gonna say, well, you know, I've been ceo of some company and I have all this experience that's not gonna help, help you at all to be a mom. It's if you, if you compare that to what you've lost hormonally and energy wise and interest wise because you've spent your whole life scrolling through Instagram, um your adult life so far and you've just blasted your dopamine circuits. Um I, you're just not gonna be as good of a mom. I'm sorry. As a 22 year old, you can't cannot compare. And that's hugely offensive for ladies to hear. But would you be as offended if I said as a man as a 39 year old man, I cannot compete against 22 year old athletes of my same genetic potential, right? So, so I can't compete today as a runner against myself at 24. There's no way, right? Are you offended by that? So what's different about being a mom? Are you saying that's a less physical job? So it's just insane. We live in an insane world where we pretend things that are obviously abundantly false, we pretend they're true and then we get angry at people for saying the truth. So, so anyone I invite you to try to make an argument to persuade me that I'm wrong and you can't because it's just, it's, it's a tautological fact, right? So, um that's the motherhood phase and that's been corrupted and degraded and squished down in time. It's supposed to be this thing that spans time uh historically, up until the pill, basically, um mothers uh the average first time birth in the US, the the lady was 22 I believe, maybe 21. That was the average age of a first time mother. And I think that's about right. And uh incidentally the historic average for marriage age, um, the woman was 2122 and the guy was 2526. I also think that's ideal on the record. I think that's about ideal. Um The fact is that a woman can do better if she chooses a high quality man that's older because there's more evidence of who he is and who he's gonna be. Well, he is who he's gonna be and there's far less risk in that. But once a guy gets over 26 you gotta wonder why he's not married yet . And so then that becomes a, you better figure out why that is and the number of reasons why he's not married yet are going to decrease steadily. Now that's gonna be hugely offensive to the guys watching this who are single over 26. But again, it's just is how it is. Sorry. Um Cool. So, um then the last phase that Louise Perry mentions is matriarch. Now, this one we've really messed up on. I don't know that we've messed up on it more than the other two. Everything's quite messed up, but the matriarch one is really messed up for some reason. There's no glory in being a grandma anymore and I don't know why this is, it's really, really, really sad one. Theory that's been put forth. And I've seen many people say this is that women are inherently self competitive and, you know, guys are competitive and they'll punch each other in the face or wrestle or something to see who's best women just secretly tear each other down. And that it's like the last woman standing is the best or something. Um, and this is well studied, this is well studied that women sabotage reputations. That's how they compete. So, um grandmas pretend that they're maidens. Basically, that's what happens. And it's sad. It's ridiculous . So, um they do this with how they dress, they do this with how they act, but the most tragic thing about it all, in my opinion, I think the most um detrimental way they act is by refusing to share the mistakes. They've made the lessons they've learned with younger women. And this is a tragedy and it's something that I i it just get gotten very, very bad in the past decade or so. So if you're a lady who has kids that are starting to leave home, it's time for you to transition into your matriarch phase. And there's glory in this, the glory of being a grandpa or grandma is. And for some reason, the grandpas don't tend to struggle with this very much comparatively. Anyway, the glory of being uh a grandma or grandpa is the wisdom that you have that you can share with younger generations who have no other way of knowing these things that, you know, and so my grandpa came over here and he knew how to rent, run a backhoe and he knew how to fix the sewer. Uh, I had a broken pipe and he's like, no problem. I can do this in my sleep. Right. And that's extremely valuable. And, uh, it, you know, my grandfather told me once, he said, he said one of the most valuable things you can learn from someone is the things they've done well. But the most valuable thing uh is to learn from their mistakes. And, uh that's wisdom. So we're afraid to tell people about our mistakes. You know what that means. It means we haven't repented because part of repentance, an unavoidable, part of repentance is absolutely mandatory. It's forsaking your sins. That means you have to condemn your past self to free your future self. You have to condemn your past self. And if you can't look back and say, hey, when I did this, that was a mistake and I will never do it again. You're not gonna get to the point where you never do it again. If you're more embarrassed about admitting that you did something wrong, then you are actually doing something wrong. You haven't gotten through the process yet, you haven't really made the decision. So, um, this doesn't mean that we ought to tattoo our sins onto our arms and, you know, wave them in the , in the sky excitedly, but there's a time and a place to say, don't do what I did or do this better than I did. And we're afraid to say it and disproportionately it's ladies that are afraid to say it. Um You will find guys who are more than happy to share their lessons learned with younger men. Um And they're much more abundant than the women who are doing that. Sadly, you will also see way more young men who are looking for that than you will young women. Um That's a different challenge, right? So I think that concludes the thoughts that I wanted to share about this. Um It's abundantly ridiculous that someone would get into so much hot water for saying that women or men that people have a prime. Now, if folks wanted to argue the age of what that prime is and make an argument that it has something to do with what we're talking about, like politics or construction work or something. Hey, I'm all for it. Like I'll, I'll sure. Right. Sounds great if someone wants to argue with lemon because he supported Joe Biden who, you know, was born 6.2 million years ago. Um And yet he's OK, he's OK with that, but he's not OK with a woman in her fifties running for president. Yeah, that's hypocritical to the max. OK. Um But to say that that uh folks don't have a prime, that's just absurd. I mean, Dianne Feinstein who I think was elected to Congress under FDR or something. She's retiring and some media person approached her to ask her a question about her media retirement or her retirement. And she said she didn't know about her retirement and she's clearly lost. She has no idea what's going on. Well, yeah, she's way too old to be in office. Right. And I'm all for age limits to people who run, I think if you're over 65 you shouldn't hold public office. Sorry. Um, but, or something right there ought to be some limit because obviously the cognitive test and, and honor system of people not running if they're not capable, that's not working. Right. That's not working. But, um, our most capable people should be in office, not our least capable. But, uh, to argue that there's no prime. That's absurd. And what I really think going back to the general principle is higher level thinking, not only do we need to get to the point where we're willing to say the things that you're not allowed to say. We need to really, really stick it to people who fight that when you do, we need to call them out for being absurd . We need to laugh at them. We need to make fun of them and we need to refuse to deal with them in anything that matters in any real way. Because, um, if you're, if you're not only unwilling to say what's true, but you're willing to fight what is obviously the truth. You are a dangerous person. You are causing great harm in life to yourself and others. And we need to get to the point where we recognize this and we treat it accordingly. And uh you, you could explain a lot of what's wrong with the world today in terms of people not standing up for what's right. So before I go, I just want to give you a pointer in your scripture study, you look up the phrase fighting against Zion. You'll find it's not talking about a physical battle against a physical city. It's talking about an ideological contention. It's talking about people who either stand up for what is right across every domain or who fight against it. And unfortunately, you'll be hard pressed to find even one person who will stand up for what's right, what they truly believe all the time. And that is abundantly sad to me. Take care.