So yesterday a question came up with a friend. What is the most important quality a young woman can have to be most desirable to a highquality potential husband. And my answer to that was gratitude. And I explained that a highquality man is looking for how to invest what he has to give, which of course will always be limited in order to maximize the joy of his wife, his potential wife, because joy comes from value. And so
what he's actually looking to do is to think about what he has to give and to find a woman who would most appreciate it. Well, uh, the person I was discussing this with said, "Well, what about charity?" And I said, and and yeah, she said, "Well, what about charity?" Because wouldn't it be ideal to have a husband that was most concerned with the benefit of his wife and the wife most concerned with the benefit of the
husband? I said absolutely. Yeah. But that's one of those things that sounds really good on the surface, but typically in its implementation includes some not so great things below the surface. I said the fact is there are so many scriptures about charity, but it's not exactly the easiest thing to find. In fact, to truly be charitable is to be like God because God is love. And so if your criteria for a marriage prospect is that they
have charity, your bar is so high that I'm not sure that you're ever going to find someone. The purpose of life in a nutshell is to become more like God. And therefore, when you're basically looking at for at people who haven't lived that much yet, in the case of a guy seeking a a wife, a lady who hasn't had kids yet, which is an absolutely critical part of her development of charity, among other character qualities, if
that's your criteria, you you're going to really struggle to find somebody to marry. And so the building block of that in a sense is gratitude. It's valuing the very things that a highquality man has to offer. But the merge between these seemingly distinct criteria is actually really clean and it's it's important. One way of thinking about the marriage covenant is that each person is committing to be and become the kind of person that can maximally provide
benefit to the other up to what they are willing to receive. Now, each part of that is very important. And hopefully you can already start to see how this perfectly ties into what charity actually is, what God's love actually is. So God's love is a willingness to suffer for the benefit of another. 4 minutesAnd so if you're willing to do that maximally, you're willing to invest whatever resources you currently have or might have for the benefit
of another person. However, and this is where it gets interesting, that covenant of marriage is actually just the covenant as in the new and everlasting covenant. It is exactly what God offers us. And it is exactly what we ought to offer all people, not just those we are married to. We are meant to do as he does. He said, "Love others as I have loved you." And how does he love us? He suffers up to the
limit of his capacity. For the benefit of all people and because it's for the benefit of all people, it's optimized across the limits of all people. He loves all people up to what they're willing to receive and those who value it the most receive the most from him. So this is exactly how it works and it is exactly how to orchestrate an ideal marriage. So much could be said about this, but I've given you some extraordinarily
valuable building blocks. So, it turns out that gratitude is extraordinarily important for a young lady to have when she's looking for a husband. And she ought to look for the very qualities she appreciates the most. Very very few young ladies do this. Very few make a list and rank it and really think about how much they value each of those attributes. And almost none of them will go and look for guys that have those attributes. Unfortunately,
very few men look for women who value the kinds of attributes they currently have, who they are, and the kinds of attributes they could develop over time, which is who they could be. So, if you want some tips on how to have an extraordinarily happy life in spite of the fact that everything's sort of burning down around us, I've given you some huge pieces here.